How to Master Your Inner Game and Find Your True Self

How do you know who you are?

It took me over a year to truly understand and answer this question.  The journey changed my life.

So, who are you?  How do you know who you are?  Do you believe what you say and think?

These are really important questions to master your inner game and find your true self.  Most people are a product of their surrounding and influences in life.  Everything from parents, schooling, media, and culture to religion and social circles influences who you are and what you think.  But have you ever stopped to ask if what you say and believe are truly your thoughts?  Are they the ones you want to own or do you just react and what you say and think happens automatically?

Awareness is the catalyst to change in anything.  You cannot affect something you are not aware of.

But what if I told you that many of the things you say and do were put there by someone or something else. Further, what if I told you these thoughts and natural reactions run you without you even knowing it? Then, what if I told you that you have a choice to let them to continue to run you or to choose your own path?  Would you want to go down that road?  You'd at least be curious.

You can change the whole trajectory of your life and your potential by choosing the way you think.  Your subconscious mind has been conditioned to react in specific ways to specific situations.  Some of these reactions you may like, others you may not...and are looking for the way to change them.

The formula for changing your beliefs is simple - implementing it consistently is incredibly difficult.  But it has been done many times and changed lives.  Here it is:

1. Take inventory:  Start taking note of your actions and things that you say.  Write them down.
2. Ask yourself if this is what you believe:  Dig in and ask yourself if you truly believe in what you are saying or doing.  Was it a choice by you or did you hear it or learn it elsewhere?
3. Decide:  Decide if you are going to continue with that way of thinking or actions that you take.  Keep what you like and then decide what thoughts and actions you want to have.  Write those down.
4. Action:  Put the thoughts and actions into practice.
5. Stop, Ask, Choose:  Learn to stop, ask, and choose.  Stop yourself when you feel you are "just reacting" to a situation.  Ask yourself how you want to respond.  Choose the thoughts and actions you want to have and move forward.

As I mentioned above, while this process is easy to understand and follow; it is hard to put into place on a daily basis and on the moment.  So take it slow.  Start with one area or type of situation in your life and focus on getting into a routine of Stop, Ask, and Choose in that area.

Lastly, you have to commit to this for your life.  It is only through repetition and time that this process becomes natural and instant for you.  When you do so, you will absolutely change your inner game and find your true self.  Enjoy the journey!!