Don't Die Before You are Dead
Let's face it. A lot of people give up on life and never reach their potential. They get beaten down by adversity, failure, and even by the prisons they create in their own mind.
In short, they die before they are dead.
You've seen people like this before - they become walking shells of their former self and no longer seem to have purpose or drive in life. They seek comfort and any time they have a chance to break out or break through from the chains holding them down, they shy away from the opportunity. It truly is a vicious cycle that can drag people down to the depths of depravity. Many can never escape it.
But this state can be broken and people can once again find themselves, their purpose, meaning, and drive in life. It takes work and a willingness to understand their situation and confront it - but things can change.
The biggest place the battle is won is your mind. What happens to people when they end up in this situation is that they have created habits and subsconcious reactions that keep them in this state. For example, people will create habits of staying away from opportunities or not taking a chance to improve themselves and over time, these become habits. The subconscious mind then supports these habits by creating the reactions that keep them in force. So, for example, if someone is given an opporunity to find new meaning and purpose, their subsconcious will create a response that keeps them from taking action on it. It may be fear, worry, or doubt, but it re-enforces the thinking of not wanting to change the status quo - and thus keeps people trapped.
The only way out of this is to take back control and not let yourself be run by programming that you did not actually choose to have. And of course, it is easier said then done.
So, what does someone do to breakout?
First, they have to come to grips with where things are and decide they want to change it. From there, it is all about replacing the bad habits with good habits and retraining the subsconcious. It all comes down to recognizing those times where you have the opportunity to break out and your subsconcious tries to reel you back in and in those moments having the courage to push forward and through. This is incredibly hard the first few times, but gets easier as time goes on. Once you start to do this, you start to recognize the ways your mind is literally sabotaging you and can begin to choose the thoughts you want to have.
Racing Ironman taught me how to do this well as there are many times, especially after swimming 2.4 miles, biking 112 miles, that I am deep into my marathon and my mind starts to challenge me. It wants me to quit because, especially if I am going at a faster pace than normal, it thinks I am going to hurt myself or not make it. It is in these moments where I know I must push through and in doing so, I increase my self-imposed limitation levels - until the next time I hit them where I have to do it again and so on. The first time was the hardest, but now I have seen the amazing benefits of powering through and that is what has allowed me to get better and better each race climbing the ranks to be top in the world.
We must overcome the limitations we put on ourselves and never allow ourselves to die before we are dead!
My Motto for 2023
Each year I choose a motto to live by. It is something that embodies how I want my year to go, but is short and to the point.
Each day, I read this motto as part of my perrsonal growth routine and I look at all the areas I can work it into my daily life.
This year, I wanted to get back to basics and I asked myself, "What really matters and where should I focus myself?" In thinking through this I arrived at the following:
Sound Mind, Sound Body, Do Great Work
If I do those 3 things, I know I will have the year I want, but what do they mean?
Sound mind means to grow myself in knowledge and spiritually. Sound body means to take care of myself physically, but also with how I eat and to limit or remove stressors on the body such as sugar and alcohol. Good rest and a regular schedule are also needed for both a sound mind and a sound body.
Do "great" work is a distinction. Don't just do good work. Ensure that the work you do is great and you are your best for it. It means that I will have to strive and focus to be at the top of my game in all my endeavors to achieve greatness. And it also means that I must help others that work with me to play at their best levels as well.
Have you thought of a motto for how you want your year to go? If not, take some time and do so. Write it down and start each day reading it as part of your personal growth routine. You will be surprised at how it will impact you!
Start Your Year With This Advice
I saw this awesome post from @SahilBloom on Twitter this past week that lays out some awesome advice and action steps to make this your best year ever. I had to share it with you. Check it out!
Each year, our Misfit Entrepreneur guests ends each episode by giving their Misfit 3, the 3 most important pieces of wisdom they want you to take and put into your life and your business.
And each year, at the end of the year, I go through and pick the 25 "best of the best" to share with you. My hope if that you can use this incredible wisdom and advice to help you get off to a great start in the New Year.
Here are the Misfit Entrepreneur Misfit 3 Top 25!
Here's Your Year-End Success Checklist
The New Year is right around the corner. Are you ready? If you are honest, probably not. More importantly, are you ready in your business? Probably not there as well.
While the holidays are time-consuming and there is a lot going on, we still need to stop and take some focused time to prepare ourselves to succeed in the New Year. Over the years, I've put together a short, but important checklist to prepare for each New Year. In a few simple steps, you can get yourself ready and think through the most important items to ensure you succeed.
Here's your year end checklist!
1.) Conduct an honest self-assessment
Take the time to conduct an honest self-assessement of where you are and where you want to be in all areas of your life from welath to health, relationships, etc. This will help you understand the gaps and what you need to do to reach where you want to be.
2.) Decide what to "keep, kill, or delgate"
Once you know what you need to do to reach where you want to be, then you must put yourself in the best position to succeed in doing so. To do this, you will need to decide which things you need to keep doing and add into your life, which things you need to get rid of and/or stop doing and which things you should delegate to others.
3.) Plan, Plan, Plan
Once you have determined what is needed to get you where you want to go and the things to focus on or delegate to get you there, you need to plan to make it happen. This means putting in your daily, weekly, and monthly actions that you will need to do consistently to reach your goals. Do no get overwhelmed by this. Remember, people overestimate what they can do in a week and underestimate what they can do in a year. Play the long game. Planning gives you the actions needed to succeed, so you don't have to think or procrastinate. You just get up every day and start executing.
4.) Resolve to constantly evaluate what is working and what is not
Just because you decided to "Keep, kill or delegate" once does not mean you are done. You should evaluate, at least monthly, what is working and what is not so you can refine and get even better.
There you have it, a 4-step checklist to end the year successfully and start the New Year on right foot!
Why Do You Do It?
I was recently having a conversation with a family member and the topic of me racing Ironman came up and all the training I do. After talking about the commitment needed to be successful in these races, they asked me "Why do you do it?"
It was a good question and my answer somewhat surprised them as it relates to business and entrepreneurship as well.
My response was the following....
First, I have found that in life, the more I challenge my limits and overcome them, the more I am capable of and higher levels of success I can reach. It also opens my eyes to the possibilities I previously may have not thought possible. The other side of it, is that I have done all this work to get into the shape I am in, over a number of years and it would be a shame to just let go. As Walter Payton famously said, "It is a lot easier to stay in shape than it is to get in shape." I prefer to stay in shape.
With that, they nodded their head and understood.
It is the same in business as well. Every time we push through a barrier or big obstacle, we get better and find our business is capable of more than we thought. And when we do reach high levels of success, we must work hard to keep them and not let them go. This takes commitment, focus, and endurance.
Remember, "It is a lot easier to stay in shape than it is to get in shape..." Get yourself and your business in shape and keep it there!
Some Great Fatherly Advice
I came across a great list of fatherly advice from @mbrandoph on Twitter this past week and had to share it. Here it is!
Get Rid of Your Dreamkillers
Do you know what the biggest killer of dreams is? It is not outside circumstances or lack of talent or lack of knowledge. The biggest killer of dreams is worry and fear.
What do you worry about? What is constantly on your mind? What eats at you day and night? How is it impacting you?
Whatever you are worried about or fearful of, chances are it will never come to fruition - but it can be a great excuse not to move forward or step out of your comfort zone. The worry and fear will keep you in the same place if you let them. That is why they are the killers of dreams. Because in order to reach your dreams and reach new heights - you will have to push beyond your worries and fear. And to many, that is very scary.
What if? What if? What if? When you even attempt to push through these things, you will find yourself in the "What if?" stage where you come up with every possible scenario that can go wrong if you push through the worry and fear. But, what if you did and things went right? Where would you be? What could you accomplish if you did not have the worry and fear?
We are pre-wired to focus on the negative and make that the more possible outcome in our lives which is just plain wrong. We must focus on the positive outcome as that is just as possible or many times, even more possible than the negative outcome.
For just once, focus on the positive outcome of going for your dreams. List out all the wonderful things that would happen if you reached them. Then pick one action you can take toward them. Set aside the worry and the fear. They will be there, but take one action toward your dream. Then once you've done that, take one more action. Each time, you accomplish one action, pick a new one and keep going. You'll be amazed at what happens when you focus on reaching your goal one action at a time and how it can eliminate the worry and fear that stands in your way.
My Year-End Challenge to You
We are going into the final month of 2022 and with any year there are things we wanted to do, but did not get to or that we stopped pursuing. Why? Maybe we took on too much or maybe we got scared or overwhelmed. Or maybe we just didn't believe these things were possible.
Here's my challenge to you going into year end and for 2023....
THINK BIGGER AND FACE YOUR CHALLENGES!
People overestimate what they can do in a week and underestimate what they can do in a year. I want you to think bigger about what you are capable of. I want you to challenge yourself and what you think is possible. I want you realize that there are much bigger possibilities for you, that you have more potential than you know.
It's time to throw off the mindset and habits that have shackled you and kept you at the levels you are at and change your mindset and habits to go to where you want to go. You can do this in 3 simple steps.
First, pick one bad habit you want to change. Decide the habit you want to have instead and then go to work and replace it over the next month. Once you've done this once, you can do it over and over again replacing bad habits with good ones. Imagine where you will be in a year.
Second, pick one thing that you have not thought was possible for you and go to work until you've made it a reality. Prove to yourself it is possible. Do not quit. As with habits, once you've done this once, you will be able to do it over and over.
Third, face your demons. You know what your biggest inner struggles are and what needs to be done to overcome them. Typically, it means change and humans hate change - but it must be done. It may mean giving something up or starting something new. Either way, embrace change and do what is needed to face the things you know you need to and work through them before the new year begins. Throw the albatross off your back, forgive yourself if needed, and move forward.
You have one month before the New Year. Think bigger, make the changes you know you need to make, and be stronger than ever!
I have always like the Stoic philosophy because it is about individual responsibility and choice - and the ability to endure. Stoicism is a pursuit of self-mastery and wisdom. Many of history's greatest minds including people like George Washington sought out the philosophy and studied it. It is also interesting how many of the same philosophies exist in the Bible, especially in Proverbs.
We would all do well to follow some of the Stoic philosophy in our lives. Here are 10 quotes to make you think from top Stoics.
Settle on the type of person you want to be and stick to it, whether alone or in company.
Man conquers the world by conquering himself.
We begin to lose our hesitation to do immoral things when we lose our hesitation to speak of them. - Musonius Rufus
The mob is the mother of tyrants... - Diogenes
You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
No great thing is created suddenly. - Epictetus
Hang on to your youthful enthusiasms, you will be able to use them better when you are older. - Seneca
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