Yes, I'm going to go on a rant.
Stop sabotaging yourself. Stop sabotaging your success. Stop wrecking your life.
The power to change anything and everything lies in your head. And your head gets in your way.
We constantly doubt ourselves and look for reasons why we shouldn't do things and why what we are doing won't work. And when we are not doing that, we are questioning ourselves and our worth. Am I good enough? Why am I so lucky? Do I do deserve my success? And on and on.
Why? Why the hell do we do this to ourselves. And more importantly, why do we let it continue on in our lives.
Our own minds are responsible for our sabotage. And sadly, we have control our over our minds and our thoughts - but let them run off on their own and create these ridiculous narratives that wreck things in our lives.
It's time to stop. Stop letting our mind's wandering negativity bring us down. It's time to take back control and to stop sabotaging ourselves.
How? Simple. Reject the thought patterns and impulses from our mind and choose the ones we want to have. People make things so much more complicated than they have to be and tie themselves in knots. You are worthy of it. You are worthy of your success, a great life - all of it. Stop telling yourself or letting yourself be told you aren't.
Take your power back by recognizing when you are mentally sabotaging yourself and stop it in its tracks. Then choose the thoughts you want to have and more forward. Yes, this is work. But, it gets easier with practice. It is worth it? You bet.
It's time to step into who we really are and have confidence in it. That doesn't mean we are arrogant or narcissistic, but it does mean we are sure of ourselves and believe in ourselves and our worth. The chances of you being on this earth right now living are so small that you would not even understand the number if I gave it to you. You are here at this time for a reason, a purpose. So, don't let it be squandered by your mind's wandering negativity. Own your life and own every moment. Live free and to the fullest. Work your ass off. Take care of those around you. And for Pete's sake don't dwell on things. Make a decision and keep moving forward - learning from it no matter how it ends up. Be confident, yet humble and be the best version of yourself you can. The world and those around you need you to be.
Stop sabotaging yourself and become who you were meant to be....
There is a secret that has been passed on by the most successful throughout history. It was articulated by everyone from Lao Tzu to Aristotle. The secret was even referenced multiple times in the Bible.
The secret I am talking about? The power of focus. Where your focus goes, your results will follow. On the surface, this seems pretty obvious and common sense. But, it goes deeper. Your subconscious mind perceives your focus and acts on it for you 24 hours a day. It works while you sleep, while you are doing your daily work, and even when you are exercising or watching TV.
So, if what you focus on expands in your life, then it is very important to have a good grasp and plan for what you are focusing on in your life. When is the last time you stop and asked yourself, "What I am focused on in my life?" or maybe, "What am I focused on this week? or "What I am focused on today?"
One thing I have found over time is the power of weekly and daily "to do" lists to help with focus. You should always have your bigger long-term goals for 6-12 months as a backdrop and review them, but your weekly and daily "to do" lists are the focuses that help get you there.
If you are someone that doesn't practice starting your day with a plan and mission to accomplish a "to do" list, give it a shot and watch how amazingly more productive you are. The focus that you give yourself and your subconscious will manifest in your work and your results. This is another simple secret that many of the most successful practice.
Remember, where you focus goes, your results will follow. Find a way to make sure you are focused on the right things every day!
If you ask most people if they want to be successful, they will say "Yes." But, when you ask them if they are willing do everything it takes to reach that success and if they know what they need to do, people are a lot less confident.
Success is earned. Just like freedom is earned. Last week, we remembered 9/11 in the United States and the horrific events of that day. On that day, the U.S. was attacked because of our way of life and the freedoms that our citizens enjoy. That freedom didn't just happen. It was earned. It was earned through our revolutionary war and by upholding the principles and ideals of our founding and protecting them for centuries. It can never be taken for granted or we will lose it.
Success is the same way. It is a disciplined commitment to a set of principles, ideals, and actions that you follow and never give up on. You have to keep going at it day in and day out, sometimes for many years to reach the success you desire. And even then, the success you get may not be what you envisioned when you started.
Success is earned over time by diligence, dedication, and experience. Every day you get better and closer to your goal. You are responsible for your effort and your commitment.
Interesting enough, the success you seek doesn't need to be done in a huge glorious way. It can be done in little increments of getting better. In fact, most success comes from getting better at the little things. And it doesn't take much. Think about the winner in an Olympic race. Many times, it comes down to 1/10 of a second or less. That can be a hand placement or foot position at the starting line. The littlest of things can make the biggest difference. The difference in getting a sale in a business could just how much faster you respond to a lead than your competition. It could be that last follow up on a potential partnership after you have exhausted yourself in the effort.
Ask yourself, "What can I do today to further my success?" Start each day this way and never stop! Earn your success.
How do you know how to sell?
It's a peculiar question. And the first time I was asked it as young executive, I have to admit, I was fumbling for an answer.
The truth is most people have never been taught how to sell. For many years, there was no "school" for it although that has changed over the last decade.
Most people that are in sales, end up there. They don't go looking for a sales position. They are accidental sales people. And because of this, many people in sales never reach their true potential.
So, back to the question. How do you know how to sell? Well, the truth is, all of us already have all the tools we need. It is wired in us as humans. One of the most innate abilities we have is to sell. We don't see it that way, but think about what you are doing when explain an idea you are excited about or if you like a guy or gal and convince them to go out with you - you are selling. You are selling yourself, an idea, a way of thinking, etc. In fact, we are always selling. Every day, we are selling something to somebody. We just see it as selling.
So, the truth is, you already know how to sell. You were born with the ability. You have just never been aware of it. And awareness is the catalyst to change.
Now, that you understand selling is in your blood, you can hone the skill and use it to help you in life. The best advice I can give you on how to better your sales skills is to be authentic, be honest, and know your worth. And most importantly, people buy you, before they buy your product or service.
That may sound like common sense, but so many people try to be someone else when they sell something and it is easy to spot. People know "when they are being sold." When you have "try and sell someone," that's not selling. It's more like desperation - and it's not authentic. Be true to who you are.
Next, be honest. Tell things like they are and be up front. There is always an element of tact needed. But, people will respect you when you are authentic and give them a true picture of things. Remember, people buy you first.
One of the places where salespeople hurt themselves the most is not knowing their worth. They give way to much when they don't have to- both to the detriment of their business and their own wallet. Salespeople have families and kids to feed to. Show your worth. Believe in it. Explain it honestly and true and be willing to stand by it. Not everyone will buy from you, but they will respect you, and you will be a lot more successful over the long run.
In the end, you should never have to "try to sell." Go back to how you are when you are sharing an idea or concept you are excited about with your friends or family. You don't see it as selling. It's the same way in business; you are dealing people just the same there. Always remember that.
Well, "Greenie" finally bit it this last week. But, it wasn't without one of the most amazing fights I had ever seen .
You see, Greenie was a one of my daughters fish in the fish tank in her room. Anyone that has had a fish tank with goldfish, glofish, or others knows that there lifespan isn't that long, but as long as you take care of them and clean the tank regularly, etc, they can last a little while.
Greenie was different. We got him a long time ago, well over a year with some other fish and while some of the others had gone to the deep sea heave, Greenie continued to cruise on. A few months, he started showing signs of his age and started having trouble swimming. We thought it would be a matter of days before nature took it's course. Wrong.
That fish lasted for months - even when it basically laid flat on its side floating at the top of the water in the tank, it would miraculously come to life and start swimming when we walked by, I can count how many times we thought he was gone, only to see him come to life. It started to become a joke in the house that if a nuclear bomb went off, all that would be left is Greenie and a couple of cockroaches!
Eventually, it came to an end, but Greenie surprised all of us with his longevity and ability to live.
I took 3 lessons from this experience that I want to share with you.
1.) You have more capacity to withstand things than you think
The Navy Seals have the 40% rule that says when you mind says you are done, you are only 40% done. You have more capacity to endure and keep going than you think. We all thought Greenie had days to live and he lasted for months. It's never over until you decide it is.
2.) No matter what happens, keep pushing any way you can
Even though Greenie lost his ability to even swim normally and had to float on his side most of the time, he kept at it. Every time the fish got fed, he came alive and found a way to get some food and swim. He did it anyway he could. In your life, you are going to have challenges and obstacles come at you from all directions - keep pushing through them and overcome them anyway you can. It may not be pretty, but you can do it.
3.) Celebrate the good in the bad
Even though Greenie finally moved on, the lesson in perseverance he showed to our daughter was priceless - to the point where we can now say thinks like "Be like Greenie, keep pushing. Try harder, etc." Going through the experience was a good one, even thought the end result was bad. To see Greenie fight every day and keep going was something we celebrated and will remember for a long time. It's amazing the lessons you can learn from a little fish!
I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.
Read that quote carefully. Ponder it. In less than 50 words, Thomas Paine gives some of the best life advice and principles for success ever put forth.
If model what Paine admires, you too will find success and, more importantly be able to hold your head high in doing.
As yourself, Are you willing to "smile when trouble comes and gain strength from the distress it brings?" If so, you will be able to overcome almost anything.
Are you able to "grow brave by reflection?" Meaning, are you able to look inward at yourself, the good and bad, learn from it and use what you learn to make yourself better and be brave in your life?
Or will you be a "little mind that shrinks" when challenges come your way or when you are forced to confront the things about yourself that truly need changed?
But, "if you heart is firm, and your conscience is clear" then you will find a way to make it through the things that stand in your way and "pursue your principles unto death." What are your principles? What are your convictions? What are the core beliefs that you will not change or sacrificial for anything?
Have you ever stopped and thought about these things and defined them for yourself? Maybe it's time.
After all, by doing so, you will know yourself better and become a better version of yourself - as well as know the things that will guide you in life. To me, that is what Paine is telling us. Find your principles, do not shrink when they are challenged, be brave in your pursuit and keep your heart firm, and because you do this, your conscious will be clear and you will reach your true potential.
Heed this advice and use it in your life every way you can!
We have all been there. We reach a point in our lives and work where there is just so much going on across so many areas that we can't seem to keep up with it all.
And in today's fast paced world and seemingly 24/7 instant environment, things can compound quickly and get away from us making us truly overwhelmed.
The worst part is that if we don't do anything about it, things continue to pile up to a point where we start to miss things, critical important things - and more importantly potentially miss out on potential opportunities.
So what do you do when this happens? How do you get out of being overwhelmed and get back on track?
I've one simple exercise that makes the biggest difference and alleviates this problem. It will take you about 10 mins to do.
When you feel yourself getting overwhelmed with tons of stuff to do and not knowing which things to work on or do first to remove the piling up of tasks, needs, and/or responsibilities - stop and write everything down.
I'm serious. Take 10 minutes, get away from your office or area of work and just do a brain dump of everything you have on your plate. Write everything down - work stuff, family stuff, personal stuff - get everything you think you have to do across your life out of your head.
Once you've done that, take a look at the items and decide if any don't belong or are really not things you need do, or more importantly, can delegate. Then prioritize the rest of the list from most important to least important and get working on them.
I know this seems so rudimentary and foundational, but it isn't funny how many of us forget to do these simple things and carry on in a state of flux and craziness from day to day.
This one simple exercise will save you so much time, help you to be more productive, and most importantly save your sanity!
Have you ever gotten to a point or felt "cloudy" on things. Almost like you had so many things to do or could do, and you weren't sure which way to go. This happens to a lot of us entrepreneurs because we see opportunity everywhere and "there is always something we can be doing."
When you find yourself in these instances - it's best to take some time to clear your mind and give it a break. Things will clear up if you do.
There are a lot of methods for clearing your mind, reducing stress, and removing the cloudiness, but here are 3 simple ones that I have found to work well and easy to implement.
1. Get a Change of Environment
This one is pretty easy. If you spend a lot of time at the office or in the same place where are working, it is hard break the cycle and clear your mind. If you simply get a change of environment and allow your mind to think in a new place, it can make a huge difference. It may be as simple as taking a walk in nature or working from a Starbucks for a day. One thing I love to do is go to our family cabin and work a day or two from there. There are a lot of options. The key is to just recognize when you need to get in a different environment and then act on it.
2.) Learn Box Breathing
A lot has been studied on taking time to breath each day. So much in fact that our wearables and other devices remind us to take time to do so. One of my favorite breathing exercises is Box Breathing. This technique is used by everyone from special forces to pro-athletes. I love this method because, a.) It works and b.) it is easy to do. Breathing is very important to calm and center yourself and you can do Box in less than 10 mins a day. Here is a good article on how to practice it.
Ok...this may be a "duh" kind of statement, but exercise really is the best way I've found to clear your mind. Whenever I am feeling very bogged down and in need of direction, I go for a long run - 10+ miles. It usually takes about 5 miles before mind clears and its just the sound of my stride and the outdoors around me. It's at this point that I usually get my best answers to problems or best ideas. We all know the tremendous benefits to exercise for many areas of our lives. My advice is to get into a solid exercise routine daily because it will help you to not get as "cloudy" in the first place. Plan to have time each day devoted to your physical health and it will make a huge difference. You will be in better shape, sleep better, have less stress, more energy, and have a sharper mind.
Practice these 3 things in your life and you always be able to move on quickly, have less stress and clearer head.
My recent Half-Ironman event was a big success. I shaved about 20 mins off my time from the same race last year and continue to get better and stronger at the 3 disciplines (Swim, Bike, Run).
I cruising along on my run at about mile 7 when I saw my wife and daughter waiting to cheer me on. There is nothing better, after swimming 1.2 miles, biking 56 miles, and being halfway through a 13.1, than seeing your family there rooting for you and cheering for you. It gives you 2nd, or maybe 3rd wind. I gave them a sweaty hug and thanked and them for supporting me as I ran in place for a minute. Everything was going great. Then my wife said, "Did you hear?" I said, "About what?" My wife quickly told me that a competitor that left on the bike a little while after I had started my ride got hit and killed by a vehicle.
In that moment, knowing I had to run another 6 miles, I didn't know what to do. All I could muster was an "Oh my gosh, what happened!" My wife didn't know, but she gave me a quick hug and told me to be careful.
As an Ironman competitor or any distance racing competitor, there are always dangers. We spend a lot of time running on roads, swimming in lakes or oceans, and biking for long distances on roads with traffic. The worst fear of our loved ones is us getting hurt or killed in a freak accident. And the last place anyone would expect this to happen is in a sanctioned Ironman race where everything is blocked off, paramedics, and race staff all around the course, and every safety precaution is taken.
After the race, I talked to a few of my race friends and no one really new the details. Later that day, we heard that biker had gone outside the blocked off area and was stuck - so it was their fault. But, they lost their life. I can't imagine that. You start a beautiful morning watching the sun come up, do a great mile + long swim and get on your bike to ride. You are in the best shape of your life. Things are great. Life is good.
Then, in one instant, with one decision, your life is over.
As I thought about it in the days that followed, it really hit home to me how precious every moment that we have is...and how all of take them for granted. Heck, I may have even talked to this person that morning wishing them a great race.
I know it is hard to cherish every single moment and take the perspective that every moment is precious in our daily lives as we go from home to work to the activities we do, but maybe we can stop and just really enjoy one moment each day and be thankful for it. Maybe we can choose one moment to truly make count or one action to make count each day. That wouldn't be too hard and our lives, and those of the lives around us would be better for it. Find a way to do that. Find a way to make at least one moment really count each day. I know I will.
When was the last time you a real reality check on your business? Maybe you are doing well and things are going great. Or maybe you've run into some challenges lately and are wondering what you may be doing wrong.
Either way, a good habit to get into each year is to get a fresh set of eyes on your business and get feedback to help you. You should bring someone in from the outside and have them do a top down analysis of your business.
Now, forgoing objections in your mind, such as, "I can do that, but they don't understand our business. They don't understand what we are going through and having to do. Coming in for a few hours is not enough time for them really understand and help us." There is some validity to the argument, but I would say that the feedback you will get outweighs the issue of them not knowing your business as well as you do.
Anytime you get feedback, there are elements of it that you will not use or are not accurate, but there is always something that you will. And that is what you are looking for. You are looking for the little diamond in the rough or that one of two things, or different ways of thinking that can make a huge difference in your business.
Look, I know it is hard to have someone tear apart your business and maybe challenge you about how your do things, but that is the point, right? If you never confront things and do things the way you've always done, you pretty much get the results you've always gotten. Your goal in this exercise is to expose the problems, the skeletons of things that you may have been willing to deal with and figure out how you will. The goal is always to get new advice and a different perspective that may cause you to look at things differently and grow.
So, get a reality check by an outsider at least once per year. It's one of the best ways to break your business out to new levels.
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