There is an incredible power in 5 minutes of time. It all comes down to how you use it.
A number of years ago, I started a daily habit that takes me about 5 minutes to do. It was a little awkward at first, but didn't take long to prove itself as one of the most important things I do in my day.
In fact, it has helped not only my focus and productivity, but also my attitude and way that I look at life.
What is the habit? It is my daily "3 to Thrive" exercise. In this exercise I do the following:
The reason 3 to Thrive works so well is the simplicity of it and the way it focuses you. First, you choose 3 things to be grateful for. This makes a big difference in your attitude and makes you think about what really matters. It also makes you feel good and start your day with good in your life. Next, you choose the 3 most important priorities for you to accomplish that day. This focuses you and puts the most important things right in front of you from the start of the day keeping them forefront. Lastly, I say a little prayer. This centers me and allows me to communicate directly with God each day. Whether you are religious or not - having a way to center yourself before you start your day is critical. What that is for you is up to you.
I have done this routine now for many years and although I'm not perfect (sometimes I miss a day), I can say it is the most important daily habit that I have. This one little 5 minute exercise has made a major difference in all areas of my life over the years and I know it will do the same for you. Try it for a week and watch the difference it makes for you. It's amazing what a little 5 minute habit can do.
Out of all the things you can do for your personal and professional success, choosing your mindset is by far the most important. Noticed I said "choosing" - that is right, you get to choose. Every day, you choose how you will approach the world and the mindset you get to have.
But, how do you know you are on the right track? How do you know if you are choosing the right mindset? A winning mindset?
Well, that's the real trick.
Over the years, I have worked with and been coached by top experts in mindset training as well as discover many things through my own endeavors and experiences. I recently wrote about the mental experience I went through in my last Ironman race, which a great example of how cultivating a winning mindset can power you through.
I've compiled what I think are the 5 most important elements to having a winning mindset and I trust they will help you in creating yours.
1.) You Must Have an Unwavering Faith in Yourself
Faith is different than belief. Faith is believing without seeing. It is knowing in the deepest recesses of your soul. In order to develop a winning mindset, you must have an unshakable, unwavering faith in yourself to be able to win and succeed. This doesn't mean you are blindly arrogant and ignore your weaknesses. It does mean that when everything is stripped away you have the faith, the belief without seeing, that you will make it in whatever you are setting out to do.
2.) You Must Be Relentless
Winners can go through defeat after defeat after defeat without giving up. They have an endless reservoir of will to keep going. They are relentless in this fact. The don't give in, give up, or ever stop. They push farther and harder. They learn, adapt, and go forward. They are absolutely relentless.
3.) You Must Be Committed
Commitment is needed to succeed in anything. It goes along with being relentless in that it is the commitment that has to be made for you to relentlessly pursue it. But commitment is really about your "why." What is your deep reason for what you are doing. That is your commitment. It is the thing that you will not go back on no matter what.
4.) You Must be Willing to Sacrifice
In order to have a winning mindset and to reach your highest potential, you will have to sacrifice things. If you are a top-tier athlete, that may mean no more nights out partying with your friends, or even as an entrepreneur building your business, same thing. It may even mean you need to change your friends. No matter what it is, if you choose to have a winning mindset, there are things that you will sacrifice to reach it and maintain it. Get comfortable with this now on your journey. Be prepared for it and realize that when you do make good sacrifices in pursuit of your goals, they will pay off in the future.
5.) You Must Be Willing to Take Risks
You will have to take risks to win at whatever your are going after. There is no way around it. Some risks are small. Some are big. Some have major consequences if they don't work out, others not so much - but the fact remains that risk is part of the deal. I look at risk like problems that need to be solved. The bigger the problems you can handle and solve, the more you can grow. It is the same with risk. Managing risk is a skill set like anything else. And you have to build up your abilities before taking on the major risks. What do I mean by abilities? Maybe they are more like capabilities. In order to take on a large risk, you need a few things. You need to have several back up plans in case things don't go as planned. You need to have the right resources and/or partners in place to help you. You need to have studied the risk and looked for all the areas you can mitigate it. And you need to understand the consequences and be prepared for them if it doesn't work out. Of course, there is the other side, which is succeed and you need to prepare for that as well. Develop your skills of handling risk if you want to grow your winning mindset.
There are a number of other elements, I could list. Many are probably ones you guessed might be in the 5 highlighted above. Things like discipline and consistency, etc. Those are needed, but without the 5 above, it will be tough to cultivate a daily winning mindset.
Yes, I'm going to go on a rant.
Stop sabotaging yourself. Stop sabotaging your success. Stop wrecking your life.
The power to change anything and everything lies in your head. And your head gets in your way.
We constantly doubt ourselves and look for reasons why we shouldn't do things and why what we are doing won't work. And when we are not doing that, we are questioning ourselves and our worth. Am I good enough? Why am I so lucky? Do I do deserve my success? And on and on.
Why? Why the hell do we do this to ourselves. And more importantly, why do we let it continue on in our lives.
Our own minds are responsible for our sabotage. And sadly, we have control our over our minds and our thoughts - but let them run off on their own and create these ridiculous narratives that wreck things in our lives.
It's time to stop. Stop letting our mind's wandering negativity bring us down. It's time to take back control and to stop sabotaging ourselves.
How? Simple. Reject the thought patterns and impulses from our mind and choose the ones we want to have. People make things so much more complicated than they have to be and tie themselves in knots. You are worthy of it. You are worthy of your success, a great life - all of it. Stop telling yourself or letting yourself be told you aren't.
Take your power back by recognizing when you are mentally sabotaging yourself and stop it in its tracks. Then choose the thoughts you want to have and more forward. Yes, this is work. But, it gets easier with practice. It is worth it? You bet.
It's time to step into who we really are and have confidence in it. That doesn't mean we are arrogant or narcissistic, but it does mean we are sure of ourselves and believe in ourselves and our worth. The chances of you being on this earth right now living are so small that you would not even understand the number if I gave it to you. You are here at this time for a reason, a purpose. So, don't let it be squandered by your mind's wandering negativity. Own your life and own every moment. Live free and to the fullest. Work your ass off. Take care of those around you. And for Pete's sake don't dwell on things. Make a decision and keep moving forward - learning from it no matter how it ends up. Be confident, yet humble and be the best version of yourself you can. The world and those around you need you to be.
Stop sabotaging yourself and become who you were meant to be....
There is a secret that has been passed on by the most successful throughout history. It was articulated by everyone from Lao Tzu to Aristotle. The secret was even referenced multiple times in the Bible.
The secret I am talking about? The power of focus. Where your focus goes, your results will follow. On the surface, this seems pretty obvious and common sense. But, it goes deeper. Your subconscious mind perceives your focus and acts on it for you 24 hours a day. It works while you sleep, while you are doing your daily work, and even when you are exercising or watching TV.
So, if what you focus on expands in your life, then it is very important to have a good grasp and plan for what you are focusing on in your life. When is the last time you stop and asked yourself, "What I am focused on in my life?" or maybe, "What am I focused on this week? or "What I am focused on today?"
One thing I have found over time is the power of weekly and daily "to do" lists to help with focus. You should always have your bigger long-term goals for 6-12 months as a backdrop and review them, but your weekly and daily "to do" lists are the focuses that help get you there.
If you are someone that doesn't practice starting your day with a plan and mission to accomplish a "to do" list, give it a shot and watch how amazingly more productive you are. The focus that you give yourself and your subconscious will manifest in your work and your results. This is another simple secret that many of the most successful practice.
Remember, where you focus goes, your results will follow. Find a way to make sure you are focused on the right things every day!
If you ask most people if they want to be successful, they will say "Yes." But, when you ask them if they are willing do everything it takes to reach that success and if they know what they need to do, people are a lot less confident.
Success is earned. Just like freedom is earned. Last week, we remembered 9/11 in the United States and the horrific events of that day. On that day, the U.S. was attacked because of our way of life and the freedoms that our citizens enjoy. That freedom didn't just happen. It was earned. It was earned through our revolutionary war and by upholding the principles and ideals of our founding and protecting them for centuries. It can never be taken for granted or we will lose it.
Success is the same way. It is a disciplined commitment to a set of principles, ideals, and actions that you follow and never give up on. You have to keep going at it day in and day out, sometimes for many years to reach the success you desire. And even then, the success you get may not be what you envisioned when you started.
Success is earned over time by diligence, dedication, and experience. Every day you get better and closer to your goal. You are responsible for your effort and your commitment.
Interesting enough, the success you seek doesn't need to be done in a huge glorious way. It can be done in little increments of getting better. In fact, most success comes from getting better at the little things. And it doesn't take much. Think about the winner in an Olympic race. Many times, it comes down to 1/10 of a second or less. That can be a hand placement or foot position at the starting line. The littlest of things can make the biggest difference. The difference in getting a sale in a business could just how much faster you respond to a lead than your competition. It could be that last follow up on a potential partnership after you have exhausted yourself in the effort.
Ask yourself, "What can I do today to further my success?" Start each day this way and never stop! Earn your success.
How do you know how to sell?
It's a peculiar question. And the first time I was asked it as young executive, I have to admit, I was fumbling for an answer.
The truth is most people have never been taught how to sell. For many years, there was no "school" for it although that has changed over the last decade.
Most people that are in sales, end up there. They don't go looking for a sales position. They are accidental sales people. And because of this, many people in sales never reach their true potential.
So, back to the question. How do you know how to sell? Well, the truth is, all of us already have all the tools we need. It is wired in us as humans. One of the most innate abilities we have is to sell. We don't see it that way, but think about what you are doing when explain an idea you are excited about or if you like a guy or gal and convince them to go out with you - you are selling. You are selling yourself, an idea, a way of thinking, etc. In fact, we are always selling. Every day, we are selling something to somebody. We just see it as selling.
So, the truth is, you already know how to sell. You were born with the ability. You have just never been aware of it. And awareness is the catalyst to change.
Now, that you understand selling is in your blood, you can hone the skill and use it to help you in life. The best advice I can give you on how to better your sales skills is to be authentic, be honest, and know your worth. And most importantly, people buy you, before they buy your product or service.
That may sound like common sense, but so many people try to be someone else when they sell something and it is easy to spot. People know "when they are being sold." When you have "try and sell someone," that's not selling. It's more like desperation - and it's not authentic. Be true to who you are.
Next, be honest. Tell things like they are and be up front. There is always an element of tact needed. But, people will respect you when you are authentic and give them a true picture of things. Remember, people buy you first.
One of the places where salespeople hurt themselves the most is not knowing their worth. They give way to much when they don't have to- both to the detriment of their business and their own wallet. Salespeople have families and kids to feed to. Show your worth. Believe in it. Explain it honestly and true and be willing to stand by it. Not everyone will buy from you, but they will respect you, and you will be a lot more successful over the long run.
In the end, you should never have to "try to sell." Go back to how you are when you are sharing an idea or concept you are excited about with your friends or family. You don't see it as selling. It's the same way in business; you are dealing people just the same there. Always remember that.
We have all been there. We reach a point in our lives and work where there is just so much going on across so many areas that we can't seem to keep up with it all.
And in today's fast paced world and seemingly 24/7 instant environment, things can compound quickly and get away from us making us truly overwhelmed.
The worst part is that if we don't do anything about it, things continue to pile up to a point where we start to miss things, critical important things - and more importantly potentially miss out on potential opportunities.
So what do you do when this happens? How do you get out of being overwhelmed and get back on track?
I've one simple exercise that makes the biggest difference and alleviates this problem. It will take you about 10 mins to do.
When you feel yourself getting overwhelmed with tons of stuff to do and not knowing which things to work on or do first to remove the piling up of tasks, needs, and/or responsibilities - stop and write everything down.
I'm serious. Take 10 minutes, get away from your office or area of work and just do a brain dump of everything you have on your plate. Write everything down - work stuff, family stuff, personal stuff - get everything you think you have to do across your life out of your head.
Once you've done that, take a look at the items and decide if any don't belong or are really not things you need do, or more importantly, can delegate. Then prioritize the rest of the list from most important to least important and get working on them.
I know this seems so rudimentary and foundational, but it isn't funny how many of us forget to do these simple things and carry on in a state of flux and craziness from day to day.
This one simple exercise will save you so much time, help you to be more productive, and most importantly save your sanity!
There is one thing that can make you more money than really anything else. It is a small thing that most people forget or do sparingly - and it can be the difference between business success and failure.
What I am talking about? Following up. Following on your sales. Following up on your partnerships. Following up on all areas of your business to make sure things get done. Follow up.
Most people follow up once, maybe, but the real fortune is found way down the line. In fact, according to the National Sales Executive Association:
Even if you cut those stats in half, the bulk of sales would still be made after the 3rd contact. How many times are you or your teams following up? Do you have a follow up strategy in place for your sales? How about for your customers?
Remember, the fortune is always in the follow up, so go our there and make yours!
One of the hardest lessons for most new business owners to learn is the difference between being cheap and being frugal. You can understand why. When a business owner finally starts making some money from the hard work in their business, they want to reap some of the benefits. They want to be paid for the hard work and sacrifice they have put in to that point.
This usually happens in the early stages of a business - within the first year or two. But, the big mistake that most young entrepreneurs or new business owners make is becoming cheap and not spending on the things that will really take their business to its next level. At this stage in a business, it is not the time to stop investing - it is the most important time to invest. A business owner in this stage must be frugal in that they don't waste money, but they spend it on the things that will give a large return in the future.
The other issue that must be watched is short term thinking. Many new or young entrepreneurs are only focused on the next month or two at this stage in their business and are not being strategic about what is needed to 2x, 5x, or 10x their business over the next year or two. You must remember to delay gratification at this stage and invest back into your company if you are in this position.
This one mistake can delay or ruin the growth of a business.
For example, if you are having some success and generating positive cashflow, but you are still doing all of the roles in your company, ie. trying to sell every client, run operations, manage cash, etc., you are going to do a bad job. You will be a jack of all trades and a master of none and your business will flounder. Instead, invest in a great salesperson or contractor and don't worry about paying them commission for their work - it will pay off 10 fold down the line. Or maybe you need some help with administration or getting all your processes and systems dialed in and documented (a critical key to success for a business), then bring in someone, whether a consultant for a period or an operations employee to help gets things dialed in. These are investments that will pay off, allow you to scale, and help you to make massive amounts of money. Don't be cheap and delay these investments.
Lastly, this is also the stage where you should be on the hunt for A-players to form your rockstar team...and almost inevitably one will come along during this time that will cost more than you think you can afford. This will stretch you and stress you, but my advice is get them on-board. To find true A-players that will be as excited and devoted to your business as you, is difficult. They are basically diamonds in the the rough. Figure out a way to get them on-board. If you can't pay the salary, work with them to find a way to compensate them less in the beginning and more over time or give them something they don't have currently (maybe a more flexible schedule or more vacation). Do whatever you can to find a way to get them involved because they will make a huge difference in the future of your business.
Always remember, that there is a difference between being cheap and being frugal. Don't be cheap. Invest in your business and your future, and the rewards will be exponentially more than the little bit your are trying to hold onto in the early stages of your business!
One of the greatest business lessons you will ever get is going to the start with a 5 or 6 year old for them to buy something.
Recently, we were at the store picking up groceries and some odds and ends and my wife told our 6 year-old daughter that she could pick out a coloring book to get. If you have kids, I bet you can imagine what happened next. For next 15-20 minutes we sat there while the little tyke went back and forth on every single coloring book they had on display - picking almost every one and starting to put it in the cart only to stop and go back and pick a new one.
I watched amused as this went on and my wife, who had started to whole thing, go more annoyed to the point she had to do a countdown from 10 or my daughter was going to have the forfeit the book. It literally came down to the wire where on "1" she grabbed one and said "This one!" Of course, as we walked away, she started to second guess herself, etc.
As I watched and thought about this, it occurred to me that a big lesson was unfolding before me. A lesson that anyone who wants to truly succeed must learn and skill they must practice. The lesson? How to make decisions. Great leaders and successful entrepreneurs are decisive. They have the ability to look at all the angles in the moment and weight the consequences of the outcomes of their decisions on something quickly and act.
This is something I have practiced hard over the years and a skill you must learn. Your ability to think in the moment, separate emotion from logic, and see the different angles to make quick, solid decisions is priceless on your path to success. Make it a point to decide firmly and quickly - and to learn when you make a decision that was not the right one. You will get better and better and your success will grow as you do.
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