There are tons of articles written about how to be more productive and accomplish more. Most of the time, it is the same advice. Focus, plan for your success, don't multi-task, turn off email, etc.
All of that is great advice and works. But, over the last few months I have been experimenting with a few additional methods alongside the ones listed above to see if they would help accomplish even more. After trying a number of things, I have found a few that really have a made a difference.
Plan - But With a Twist
You've probably read a million times that you need to plan your day or plan for your success. There is a reason for that. It works. But, one trick I have found that has a made a big difference is to plan in two ways. First, each Sunday, I sit down and write out my to do items by day for each of my different businesses for the upcoming week. This takes me a out 20-30 minutes. This gives me a bigger picture view of what I have on my docket and what I want to do, instead of looking at things from the microcosm of just one day. Once I am done, I can see where I need to make changes or move things around to maximize productivity. Second, each day, I the make my daily "to do" list from the weekly list. What is nice is that each day, I can also see what is to do for the rest of the week and if I think I will have time, I can start working in say Thursday tasks on Tuesday.
Doing this has made a huge difference. I am accomplishing more faster and am getting more time with my family in evenings and weekends.
Morning Prime and Three to Thrive
Another thing I do each morning is take 10 minutes (Just 10 minutes! So don't say you can't do this) and do what I call my morning prime and three to thrive. I write down 3 things I am thankful/grateful for. This does two things. First, it allows me to start my day with gratitude and come from a place of thankfulness. You'll be amazed at how this makes a difference in your attitude and thus productivity. Second, it gives me perspective of what is really important in life.
Once, I've done that (4-5 minutes), I look at my to do list for the day and pick the top 3 items from that list that will make the biggest impact in my life and businesses that day. I ask myself, "If I could only get 3 things done on this list, which would be the most impactful." That's my "three to thrive." I write those down or circle them on the to do list and focus only on them until they are done before moving on to the rest of the list.
The Secret Weapon
Along the way, I have found a secret weapon that from tracking my productivity when I do this vs. when not has proven to make a difference.
The secret? Listening to music with noise cancelling headphones. Not just any type of music though. It has to be instrumental only and of 3 genre: Piano, Chill Type Music....and surprise, Movie Music Scores.
I know this sounds crazy, but you have to try it. I have experimented with a number of music types and those 3 work the best. Depending on what you need at the moment, each can help you in different ways. For example, in the morning when things are quiet and I am just getting going, I like to listen to Chill Music. It drowns out all of the thoughts going in my head as the day begins. If I am feeling anxious or overloaded, Piano Music works every time. And if, I need inspiration or motivation, Movie Music Scores. Hans Zimmer's are the best.
Here are some of the best ones I have found and go to regularly by genre. I pretty much just use Youtube for these and look for ones that are at least an hour long. I hope they help you as they have me!
Floating Away - Chilled Beats Mix
Dawn - Beautiful Chill Mix
Beautiful Spring - Chillstep Mix
Ludovico Einaudi - Essential Einaudi (I love this guy, just awesome how he arranges his music)
World's Most Breathtaking Piano Pieces Vol 1
Movie Music Scores
Best of Hans Zimmer - All Time Greatest Soundtracks
Best Epic Soundtracks From Movies That Will Give You Chills
I've bookmarked about 50 more or so one of I've came across, but find I go to these a lot. Give them a shot.
Lastly, it's not that doing any one these by itself makes a big difference, but couple them together - planning your week/day and a daily prime/three to thrive alongside doing the action listening to music, and you'll be insanely more productive. Here's to your success!
Mothers a very special group. They come in all types and ways. Being a mother, much like being a father, doesn't just mean giving birth to a child, but more importantly, it means loving, caring, and living for that child. It means sacrifice and hard work. It means showing up when you don't want to or are feeling your worst. Mom's don't take sick days. They are always there and always giving...and then giving more, because it is not about them; it is about the children and family they love and serve.
There are literally a million lessons I learned from my mother. How to be giving, selfless, compassionate, caring, and take action are just a few. As I sat down to write this post, I thought long and hard about the most powerful lesson l Iearned from my mom. It was tough! So many things ran through my head. So many amazing lessons, habits, and thoughts on how to make the most out of life.
As I thought more and more, things began to become clear. The most powerful lesson my mother taught me, was one that I never really thought about. It was the one that she embodied every day and one that I naturally learned from being around her.
That lesson? How to be courageous. How to bust through fear and breakthrough your barriers. There are so many times in my life I have seen my mother show courage. From standing up for her children to standing for a cause or her country; I have watched her embody strength, courage, and the will to keep pushing and going my whole life. And in many ways, I just took if for granted.
Courage is a funny thing; It is the thing that many people need the most in their life to breakout and go after what they are truly meant to be and do with their lives, but it is the hardest for them to have. Most people see this and they know it deep in the hearts, but get paralyzed by fear or the unknown. It is easier to stay where things are comfortable than to forge ahead and create a new path. A path that nobody but you know has traveled. It takes action, fueled by courage to become who you you are truly meant to be.
Does this mean you don't have fear? No. There have been so many times that I have seen my mom scared or sensed she was, but watched her press on anyway. She knew what had to be done and by shear force and conviction was going to do it.
But, there is one thing that drives courage. One MAJOR thing. This thing matters more than any other.
It is a strong, unbreakable "why." My mother knew her "why." She knew what she had to do and what it would take to do it. She was sometimes scared, overwhelmed, confused, and not sure how she would do it, but that didn't stop her because she knew why she had to do it. She loved her kids and her family unconditionally and that drove her. It propelled her courage.
Courage in life translates to action and actions are how we move forward. We can think about things and have ideas all day, but without action, they don't mean anything. Having the courage to start and the will to keep going is really what it takes to separate yourself and reach your version of greatness. I might also add, to have that same courage and will when you fail the first through fifth times. But that is where the why comes in. If you have a strong enough why, you will always have the courage to move forward.
I cannot express the level of gratitude in words that I have for my mother embodying courage backed by a strong why and teaching me to understand what that truly means. What I have done is strive to show her through my own actions and in my efforts as a father with my daughter. I will never have the level of courage and will that she has, but if I have 1/100 of it, I know I will do just fine.
Find your why and find your courage....and give you mother a hug while you're at it.
History is a strange thing. It is marked with the deeds of men, good and bad. But if you think about it, every choice and every decision made to this point in history has gotten us to where we were at. One change in the timeline and you or I may not even be here. Everything had to happen exactly as it has for us to be at this point in life. If you stop and let that sink in a second...it's pretty freakin' incredible. And we are pretty darn lucky. It is truly humbling. What is even more humbling is that if you study history, you will find some of the most amazing stories of courage, leadership, and heroism that you have ever heard. These amazing stories not only help you to understand true courage, but also help you understand the depths of which we as humans beings are willing to go for our fellow man.
Below are three stories of incredible courage and heroism to inspire you in your life to become who you were truly born to be and reach your full potential.
Witold Pilecki, The Polish Man Who VOLUNTEERED For Auschwitz
There was no greater hell than the Nazi death-camps, especially Auschwitz. The camp was located in southern Poland and was the largest of the concentration and extermination camps.
During World War II, millions of Jewish people and perceived enemies of the Nazis were sent to their deaths in concentration camps. One of them was a volunteer.
Witold Pilecki, at almost 40 years old and a veteran of the Polish-Soviet War, hearing about the atrocities of Auschwitz, volunteered to be imprisoned at Auschwitz to secretly collect intelligence and then escape.
While in Auschwitz, Pilecki was responsible for informing the Allies of the atrocities happening and organizing a resistance movement.
In 1943, after three years in Auschwitz, Pilecki escaped. He took part in the Warsaw Uprising in August 1944 and served the London-based Polish government in exile, but was executed in 1948 by Stalin's police for “foreign imperialism.”
Pilecki's exploits were suppressed by the Communists for years and it wasn't until 1989 that the world heard of this heroic man and his bravery.
What does it take to volunteer to go into the gates of hell with an almost certainty in your fate (death)? Can you imagine what went through Witold's mind? I imagine things things like, "I am giving up my life. I am willing to sacrifice everything because it is the right thing to do for mankind. Maybe, just maybe, I can make it out alive and help others..."
Winston Churchill famously said, "If you're going through hell, keep going." On it's surface, to most it is a platitude, but when he said it, he was really dealing with hell on earth. Whatever your problem, whatever your challenge, it pales in comparison to what others through history have gone through and for what others have volunteered to do in the bleakest of times. If you are going through you own personal hell, don't stop, don't give up. Keep going.
Juliane Koepcke, The Girl Who Lived
As her plane came apart in mid-air over Peru, I cannot imagine what was going through Juliane's mind. She was 17 and had her whole life ahead of her. She was traveling with her mother, a Zoologist, to meet her father, a Zoologist as well, in the Amazon jungle. Her plane was struck by lightening and lost a wing. She stayed strapped to her seat as she plummeted 10,000 feet to the jungle below.
Somehow, she lived. She was the only survivor, with a broken collarbone and maggot infested wounds. She remembered one thing from her father and mother, "follow rivers downstream as they lead to civilization." She walked and swam through the Amazon for 10 days with no food, somehow avoiding piranhas, crocodiles, and everything in between. Finally, she found a shack where she held up and was found.
Juliane was no different than anyone of us, except for a few things. First, she was extremely lucky to be able to at least walk away, despite injuries, from the plane crash. Second, and this is the reason I picked her for this article, she refused to give up or give in at all cost. She had little survival training, except for an insatiable yearning to live. The human mind and spirit is so much more powerful than we give it credit for. It can propel us to levels and places that we never dreamed of. When the mind and spirit take over and the WILL to do something grabs us, there is nothing we cannot accomplish, no matter how much pain or obstacles stand in our way.
Use your mind to your advantage. Use your power to propel you. Never, ever give up on your dream(s). Never give in. It has to be won in your mind before it is won in your body.
Louis Zamperini, Olympic hero, WWII bombardier, plane crash survivor, POW, and survivor of post-war turmoil
In recent years, the story of Louis Zamperini has been told in book and movie form. But it took decades before it came out. I first learned about Louis story over a decade ago after hearing him speak. He was the most humble and straightforward man I had seen speak. There was no sugar-coating what he went through. 99.9% of people would not survive even the beginning of his ordeal, let alone all that he went through.
Louis was an Olympic hero at the Berlin games shortly before WWII. In fact, he was touted as the first human fast enough to break the 4 minute mile. As WWII came, he enlisted and his bomber crashed over the Pacific. He spent 47 days at sea, losing one of the 3 men with him. With almost not supplies he was able to catch fish and figure out ways to survive the 2000 mile "drift" he went through before he hit land and was captured by the Japanese. His time in a life-raft is still the longest ever recorded. But, where did he come ashore? Basically on the worst Japanese torture island in the Pacific. He survived there and was transferred to Japan where they figured out who he was (US Olympian), tried to use him for propaganda, tortured him worse than you can imagine.
He was rescued as the war came to an end inland in Japan where he was working a coal mine as a prisoner. He would never be able to run again and upon returning suffered from severe PTSD (they didn't know what that was back then). He became an alcoholic and almost died. He was eventually saved by the woman who became his wife and Billy Graham, nonetheless. Keep in mind, he still had most of his life to go at this point! Reading what Louis endured is enough for multiple lifetimes.
There is so much to learn from this story and I urge to read the book about Louis' life, Unbroken. And that is really the point of tell you his story...you can bend, you can come under tremendous stress, pressure, even torture, but you don't have to, no, you must not break. No matter what you believe, God, the universe, whatever you call gives you what you are capable of handling...whether you know it or not. Louis story comes down to one simple thing, BELIEF. The power of unshakable belief has propelled humans to just about everywhere they thought was not possible. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Don't just say it, cement it in your soul. Believe in the possibility of greatness for yourself and it will find you.
Formal education will make a living, self-education will make you a fortune.
We go to school and learn a lot of things and practice a lot of textbook theory. Most would agree that when you get into the real world, it is much different than a textbook.
I have always believed that your real education begins after your formal schooling, and this self-education, as Jim Rohn says above, "will make you a fortune."
I was recently asked to speak to a young millennial graduate about how to succeed and go after what they want in life. The following is what I told them.
The first thing I told them is that in the real world you are not entitled to anything. The world doesn't owe you anything. It doesn't owe you a job or success. No matter what you have done or what you have accomplished to this point, in all honesty the real world doesn't care. As far as it is concerned, you are starting with a blank canvas. The beauty of this is you get to write a whole new story. But, it is going to take a lot of hustle and having having the vision to size and act on opportunities. You notice, I did not say hard work. Not that it isn't needed and there will be times you will have to work extremely hard...harder than you ever have before. But I know a lot of people that work extremely hard and don't get ahead or grow beyond their current status. It's not the work itself, it's doing the right type of work that makes the difference. Many don't ever see the distinction.
What is more important to understand about how you will truly succeed is to develop a sense of resourcefulness and willingness to act on opportunity and make it happen. This is the secret. Never say it cannot be done, ask "how can it be done," even if you don't have the resources, talent, or even a clue how to do it. It you want something bad enough, you'll find the way. Necessity is the mother of invention and I might add, hustle. One other thing I will add to this first point is that when you are going for what you want, you are going to put in a lot of time, physical effort, mental effort, resources, and sacrifice. And after doing all of this, you still may not get what you want. That is life. But, you will have grown to whole new levels and learned a tremendous amount of real life skill and knowledge that you need when you decide to get back up and go again. That is priceless. Lastly, get up and go at it again...and again...and again until you reach what you are after. It will probably not be exactly what you envisioned, but it will be in the ballpark and who knows, it may be even better than what you thought.
The second thing I told them is that if you are going to do go after what you truly want, then you need to take a big step back and get clarity on what that is. Most people don't get what they want because they don't know what they want. In our 24/7 world with an alert every second on our phone and 15 shiny objects in front of our face every minute from Instagram posts to text and everything in-between, most people never stop. They never stop, clear their head, and ask themselves what it is they are really after.
Gaining clarity of purpose is one of the most critical things that you will do for your life and your success. Being crystal clear on what you want will act like a beacon...a guide to keep you on track and make you hungry to get it. In the absence of it, people wander aimlessly from one thing to the next. We wonder why the new norm is to have 12-15 jobs in your life. (that is a real stat from the Bureau of Labor statistics)
Life moves so fast now that it is very hard to slow down and actually do the self-reflection needed to find out what you really believe, want, and get clear on it. It's hard. It's not just taking 10 mins to say "I want this." It is questioning it with boldness and asking 2nd, 3rd, and 4th level questions as to why you want it, why it matters, and how far you are willing to go to get it. If you can't 100% all in for what you want, then you won't get it. My advice is to take a few days, turn off the phone, social media, block out everything else and put pen to paper. Hash it out. It will be one of the greatest things you've ever done.
The last thing I told them is to start learning. You must begin to educate yourself outside of academia. Read everything you can. Read things you don't think you will agree with. Get a different perspective. See all sides, then make up your mind. Once you know what you want, find others that have done the same things. Read their books, watch their videos. Study it like you are studying a craft. Keep a journal of the best ideas and refer back to it regularly.
And my last point on this was that if you do this, 5 years from now, you will have created a whole different world for yourself and have had some great success. You will have probably ready several hundred books and writings, but, and this is most important, don't rest on your laurels at this point. Don't get complacent and think you've learned everything you need. This was one of the biggest lessons I learned personally. Keep pushing yourself. There really is no such thing as enough. You can always learn, grow and experience more. Never stop.
Throughout history there have been many great sages that have spoken the truest wisdom, but no one had the down to earth, plain talk, of Will Rogers. Will, who died in a plane crash in Alaska with bush pilot, Wiley Post, was one of the greatest political/country/cowboy sages ever known and his wisdom is more relevant today than ever.
Here are some of his best sayings that can make a difference in your life and the way you think...
Simple, proven wisdom that you just don't hear anymore. Use it to help you succeed and avoid cow chips!
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Every highly successful person has unique habits and traits that set them apart and make them successful. Most people think that these things are some big secret or rare talent that these people have. In reality, many of the things they do are simple or incremental, but they add up over time. If you can do 10 things just a little bit better than everyone else, it makes a BIG difference.
Here are 10 incredibly simple lifehacks of highly successful people.
Last weekend we lost a good friend and companion. Sky, our family cat passed away. People's pets and companions pass, that is part of life and you no doubt have experienced this in your life. But, there is a story here that I want to tell that relates to life and business - and if you stick with me for this article, I think it will make a difference for you.
Sky was important in a lot of ways. Shortly after meeting the amazing woman who would one day become my wife, he showed up one evening on my back porch as we were both hanging out. He was a stray. She immediately, without hesitation, opened her heart and began to take take care of him, give him food, look him over and reached out to a vet to have him looked at, etc. It was in watching her selflessness and her caring ways that I truly fell in love with her and knew she was the one.
Fast forward many years, we are married and arrive home from China with our daughter. By this time, we have managed to acquire a couple more cats or "jokers" as I like to call them (yes, I know they say once you hit 3, you are borderline crazy), but Sky was always the one that was warm, inviting, greeting you at the door, friendly with everyone. We used to joke that we could be getting robbed and he would be purring and rubbing up against the legs of the thieves as they stole our stuff. Sky was always there and happy. This made a huge difference in bringing our daughter home and starting her new life. While the other cats ran and hid from her, Sky immediately took to her. They became fast friends and I believe it really helped her come out of her shell and acclimate faster.
Last summer, Sky, now 13, started to have trouble. He started to lose a lot of weight, became sickly, and even started to become less friendly all in just a few weeks. We noticed immediately and took him into the vet. We did not expect to hear what we did. Just months earlier, he had been the same thriving, energetic self he had always been. The vet told us that his kidneys had basically failed out, he now had diabetes and possibly cancer, and that he most likely had a month to live. He even discussed euthanasia with us.
As you can probably guess, this wasn't an option for my wife. She asked "How?" How can we help him live longer? How can we help him get healthier? The vet gave us some thoughts which included a daily insulin regiment, daily fluid injections (think dialysis), and a few others things. My wife immediately went to a vet supply center and got what she needed. She spent evenings online researching cats and reading up on similar situations and what could be done. She went about it methodically, like a business leader. Find the problem, research the solution, put an action plan in place, execute.
Of course, I am observing all of this, helping where I can. But, this was her baby. and she was not going to be deterred. My daughter became her sidekick and every evening it became bath and fluids time. Bath for the munchkin while her buddy got the fluids that kept him alive. It worked. He became healthier, more vibrant, and even the vet was "amazed" at how well he was and what had happened with him in the most recent checkup.
This went on until this past weekend when Sky finally succumbed. I'll never forget it because I was the only one home. My wife and daughter were out having a mommy/daughter day and I had settled in to get some much needed work done on a new project. Just as I was about the throw my headphones on, I heard a noise from right outside my office and I knew it wasn't right. I walked over to Sky's bed and there he was. He had just suffered a major seizure and he was immobile. Except his eyes. I peered right into them and he peered into mine. He knew and I knew what was happening. And in that moment, I could see that he was ready. I'll never forget it, because after that look, I could see the life start to fade from his eyes. I got my wife on the phone and she was able to get home in time to see him and take him to the vet. It was all over in about an hour. He didn't suffer much and he wasn't in pain (according to the vet). He had lived a good life and had been a source of joy for us, a bridge for our daughter to connect to her new life, and a great companion.
What compelled me to tell this story, as I reflected on it after the weekend, were the lessons I learned from it.
First, love is extremely powerful The love for another can accomplish miracles and give purpose to your life. Sky should have never been alive this long. If it wasn't for my wife's love and determination to help him live, he would have been gone last year. Love coupled with true belief in a purpose can change lives. It has even changed the world. Don't shy away from what you love. Embrace it with everything in your heart and everything you've got.
Second, life is precious. Yes, it is cliche, but life is precious. We only have so much time and every minute is important. Watching life literally die out of Sky's eyes put this into perspective for me like never before. We only have one life to live and we need to make the absolute most out of it. Go after your goals and dreams. Find your true passion. Give it everything you've got. Leave no regrets and savor every experience, so that one day when it is your time, you'll know you left nothing on the table. Sky was ready. He knew he lived well, was loved, gave love back, and had no regrets. I saw it in his eyes.
Lastly, determination and "will" make a huge difference. You know the feeling. The feeling that bubbles up inside of you when you will not let anything get in your way. When you literally are "willing" something to happen and know that it will - because you won't stop until it does. We see it in great moments in sports, business, and in life. Over the last year, I got to witness it every day as we all "willed" our buddy to live and did everything possible to make it a reality. What will you harness your will for? What will you be so committed to that you will not stop, because you cannot stop until it becomes your reality?
Whatever it is, I urge you to go for it. Use your love and passion to guide you and live life how you know you should live it - don't leave anything on the table.
Each day, we have an amazing opportunity to make a difference and brighten our world. Don't miss out on giving this gift!
We live in an "instant society." Everything moves fast and it's getting faster. It can be hard to keep up with what used to be the easy things. And in a world dominated by technology and the "ping" of a smart phone or device that has us trained to immediately respond, we sometimes miss the opportunities to be our best and connect with others, even in little ways to make a difference. Giving a gift to someone can make a huge difference in their lives and reminds us that we are human enriching ours as well.
Here are 7 gifts you can give that cost nothing and will brighten the world around you today.
1.) Tell someone you care about how much you appreciate them and most importantly, why...With life pulling us in a million different directions 24/7, we forget to stop and let people know how much they mean to us. So, tell you spouse or significant other, tell a coworker, or call an old friend. It takes less than 5 minutes to give this small gift that creates a ray of sunshine to brighten the world around you.
2.) Go out of your way to give someone the gift of a compliment, especially someone who would never expect it from you. It might be the Starbucks barista that fills you cup every day, or the mailman that delivers your mail. It doesn't matter who you pick. What does matter is that you take the time to look at someone else and compliment them. It is amazing the difference it can make.
3.) Bring out your smile. Try this exercise. For one day, make it a point to smile in all your interactions. All of them. From those you meet in person passing by to even when you are talking on the phone. Give everyone the gift of a smile. You'll be amazed at what a difference it can make and how it will show through, even over the phone.
4.) Take a genuine interest in another. This gift can go a long way for any relationship. Take the time to learn about someone and show them genuine interest. It may be an employee you've never spent much time with or the person at the checkout counter. Ask them a simple question (nothing creepy). You can even mix it with a compliment and get a two-for! "That's a really cool car, is there a story behind it?" or
"I noticed you have an awesome scuba picture on your desk, where was that taken?" The point is that you can make a difference in someone's life, and find out things you never knew that can give you another perspective or level of respect for someone, just by showing a genuine interest.
5.) Send someone a handwritten "Thank You" note. In an age where everything happens electronically, a handwritten note really stands out. It shows you took the time to stop, think, write, and put real thought into your message. It shows that you are willing to go beyond normal or conventional communication for someone. Writing someone a thank you note can have a profound impact on their world and it can bring out a more thoughtful side of you as well.
6.) Do one random act of kindness. Give the gift of kindness to someone. It may be helping them with their luggage at the airport or their groceries to the car. It could be letting someone who is obviously in a hurry go ahead of you in line. Opportunities to be kind present themselves to us all throughout each day. Take them up on their offer.
7.) Forgive someone. Give the gift of forgiveness to someone who, either by accident or on purpose wronged you, or made a large mistake. Forgive them, put it behind you, and move forward. Forgiveness is a gift that truly helps both parties. It clears the conscious of one, while strengthening the soul of the other. If there is someone to forgive in your life - do it now. You will be amazed at how it can change the world around you.
This past week, I was invited to attend a special event, Social Smash 2017, hosted by Mike Koenigs. The event was held as the closing party for the Social Media Marketing World conference in San Diego.
It was an amazing event attended by all of the major influencers and players in social media, blogging, podcasting, etc. People like John Lee Dumas, Allison Maslan, JJ Virgin, Paul Colligan, Michael O'Neal, Lisa Sasevich, Pam Hendrickson, Steve Olsher, and many others attended.
And the whole event was done live on Facebook! Everyone was sharing their best tips for success and for growing. You can access and view everything here (definitely take the time to do so)
I enjoyed meeting a number of people. Many of whose advice, I used in getting Misfit off the ground.
And, as I went through the evening, there were a few things that really stood out to me when it comes to success and life. So, I thought I'd share them with you.
Networking is Still the Best Way to Grow
For everything people do to further their businesses and life pursuits, networking in person is still the best way to grow. You just cannot replace the connections that happen when you are one on one and face to face with others. It's innately human. To be able to chat with a John Lee Dumas about podcasting or ask an Allison Maslan what she is seeing work best in business right now, and then discuss potential synergies
If you haven't made a commitment to seek out networking opportunities or taken time to investigate joining Mastermind groups to help you grow; you are missing a key element that all of the most successful use in their lives. In fact, I would probably have not been at the event, if it weren't for my connections from Masterminding.
Make a commitment to network and meet the right people to help you get where you want to go. Go to events where they will be. Join groups or organizations with like minded individuals. Invest in yourself.
The Law of Reciprocity
Throughout the evening, I met so many amazing people and one thing was constant with all of them. They were all so open and willing to give. Whether they were conscious to it or not (I think they are), they live the law of reciprocity which simply states that the more you are genuinely willing to give, the more that will come back to you in return. Of course, the most important word is "genuinely." Everyone I spoke to was so open and genuine in their willingness to learn about me and how they could help. And I with them.
This is a secret trait of the those that are very successful. I have noticed it over and over again throughout the years. They approach things in a very giving way and ask themselves, "how can I help?"
Most unsuccessful people look at things like "what's in it for me?" or "what can I get from this person?"
And they wonder why they don't get ahead.
This trait or habit is not something you have to be successful to learn, but it will absolutely help you reach higher levels of success on your journey. Start asking yourself, "how can I genuinely help?" and stop yourself from approaching things with a "what's in it for me?" or "what can I get?" attitude. You'll be amazed at how the law of reciprocity works for you.
Their Story is Your Story
For all of the hype about this group of people (and the hype is warranted), they are still just people, like anyone else. Their story is your story. I was amazed at how so many started out with nothing or just an idea. They work hard. They put in the time. They learn from failure and get back up again. They find ways to reach their goals.
Most importantly, they believe in themselves and their mission and they are devoted to it with every ounce of their being. Commitment is a word that is thrown around a lot and it has taken me many years to really learn what it means. To me, commitment is your unwavering belief and urge to push on in spite of everything that comes in front of you. In spite of fear, failure, worry, and self-doubt. It is the burning flame for something that can never be put out.
Everyone has something, that by the definition above, they are committed to on their success journey. Go all in and don't hold anything back. It was obvious that the individuals in this group had done just that.
They are Constantly Improving Themselves and Their Craft
This may seem as a given, but one thing I observed was the constant discussion of how people are testing new things, seeking out new methods, and sharing what is and what isn't working for them. No matter how successful they were, they were still learning and trying to improve.
The lesson is obvious, but one that everyone needs to hear over and over again - never stop growing, learning, or challenging yourself. Complacency is a natural enemy of success. Always be growing!
Social Smash 2017 was a great event and a great way to end the first quarter of the year. For me, it reinforced the commitments that I have made to myself, energized me to go after things with more focus and speed, and inspired me to set the bar even higher. That is all you can ask for a from a few hours on a Friday evening.
We've been having a lot of fun introducing Instagram to Misfit and our pics over the last week. Below we have put some of our favorite quotes with our thoughts on them for you. We hope they will inspire you and challenge you to succeed and thrive. Feel free to copy and share them!
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You can only get to new places if you grow yourself to be able to get there. Push yourself beyond your boundaries!
No truer words have ever been spoken. If you are comfortable, you are complacent.
Ever meet someone that seems to always successful and "lucky." What you probably don't see is all the time they put in in private to be prepared to act and take advantage of opportunities when they arise.
We are the sum of the choices we make in our lives. Our choices dictate our path. You have choice in everything. Choose wisely.
You cannot change the past, but you sure as hell can define the future. Focus on where you are going and how you are going to get there....
Failure is the right of passage to success. Embrace it. Don't dwell on it. Learn from it. And keep going...
Fear and greed are powerful forces that affect everyone. Fear will keep you from acting when you should and cause you to miss the opportunities presented to you. It takes true courage to overcome fear...and we must overcome.
Don't think that you have to re-invent the wheel. Whatever you are trying to accomplish or going through, others have been there before. Learn from them. Seek them out for their wisdom. This is why we advocate mentors and masterminding.
In order to reach our potential, we have to come to grips with reality and see it for what it is. We must accept the truths we do not want to and then go to work in creating the life we want.
What good does it do to worry or put time into things you have not control or ability to affect the outcome? We waste our valuable time and energy on these things. Instead focus on what you can control and affect the impact of...and let the others happen as they may,
Bonus! This is for all the Misfit Entrepreneurs who get up every day and go to work making their dreams become reality!
Now go out there and make it happen!